men

I’m embarrassed by people’s attitudes.

My generation is unsympathetic. In a world where you can say pretty much whatever you want from behind your screen with no repercussions, few bother with empathy or sympathy or those other things that should make us all human instead of  animals with iPhone’s. 

Out of all the things this has uncovered to me, misogyny directed from young adults my age at young women, has surprised me. 

When teenager Amanda Todd died, I saw endless amounts of people liking photos about a “slut” killing herself as if it was funny. Nobody of course wants to criticise the older man that received the photos. If an under-age girl sends photos to a grown man and he threatens to leak them, the girl apparently deserves to die. And there’s supposedly nothing twisted about that at all. 

I’ve seen “underage sluts” alluded to, as if young women literally throw themselves on adult men whilst they do everything they can to not, but can’t physically overpower a teenage girl and stop them. “Prick teases” who lure poor adult men who despite being adults cannot mentally reason if a misguided young woman flirts with them. 

I have heard people react to reports of rape with comments about what the girl was wearing as if sex crimes are actually about women having their thighs exposed and men, unable to control themselves, assume this means that they are available for sex, and are thus compelled to attack them. Instead of these men, criminals, being viewed as such they are  simple men, confused by bare flesh. And the blame somehow for no reason, lies with the woman. And nobody takes a moment to reflect on the immorality of not only the crime, but the judgement of the victim. 

Females are pressured to be sexy. Not just by the media, though that comes from both angles, lads mags with nude women looking dead behind the eyes, and women’s magazines crushing your self esteem and telling you to be sexier in order to meet a man, It’s in schools, it’s in the nasty sexist comments boys make about “who’d get it”, the cruel jibes and the sneers. The grabbing and laughing and comparing until you’re so self concious that you don’t feel like you, instead you feel like you’re putting on an elaborate performance in what they want, or you just try to be invisible, under the radar. If you don’t partake in looking and acting like the misogynistic men and women want you to this makes you “ugly” or “frigid” or “nothing special” but if you give in to this pressure, you’re a “slut”, a “whore”, a laughing stock. Neither option seems particularly appealing, there seems to be no winning. 

My generation are the professionals of the future, They will be doctors and lawyers and producers and editors. They are educated. But not in the simplest of things such as empathy and equality. 

Women are not vacuous bags of flesh for people’s pleasure, they are not prick teases or deserving victims, they are not sluts or whores or bitches. They’re not sandwich makers (however ironic you think you’re being when you say it or how much of a TOP LAD and BANTERSAURAS you think you are) They are people. And it would do us all a favour if they were treated as such.